As a parent you are very influential to how your child grows up and parent their own child. Most parents tend to communicate with their children the way their parent communicated, or not with them as a child.
It's often been said that children learn what they live. So if you're looking for a place to start helping your child build positive self esteem and self value, then you should show them your positive sense of self and strong self esteem. Be positive when you speak about yourself and highlight your strengths. This will teach your child that it's okay to be proud of their talents, skills and abilities.
the most important aspects of being a good role model for my children are:
The actions I display before my children sends a powerful message, so I leading by example. As a parent you should always keep in mind that your child is always watching you. That you are role model to your child and the behaviour that you displays will be the behaviour that your child will adopt. These behaviour will have a powerful impact on your child for the rest of their lives. Positive actions are the best tools that you can put in your child’s toolkit on their journey of life. It creates habits in your child that will last a lifetime and transcend for generations to come. Your positive actions should include both your verbal and non verbal communication.
Your child also benefits greatly from honest and positive praise. Find something about them to praise each day. You could even give your child a task you know they can complete and then praise them for a job well done after they're finished. Show your child that positive acts merit positive praise.
When your child's feeling sad, angry or depressed, communicate openly, honestly and patiently with them. Listen to them without judging or criticizing. They may not fully understand why they feel the way they do, so the opportunity to communicate with you about it may be what's needed to help them sort through a difficult situation. Suggest positive behaviours and options as solutions, and make sure to leave that door of communication open so they know the next time they feel badly, they can come to you for help and know that you won't judge or punish them for how they're feeling.
Teach your child the importance of setting goals and developing a plan to meet that goal and complete that task. Small projects are the best to start off with in the beginning. Ensure that it's an appropriate task for your child, and not too complex. Don't only give praise at the end of the project, but praise their accomplishments during the project as well.