Are you a parent that is seeing your relationship with your teenage child breakdown and this is getting you anxious?
Maybe it feels like the harder you try, getting through to your teenage the thicker the walls.
You feel like giving up, it feels like you are hitting your head against a brick wall.
Don’t let your emotions get the better of you
Often time your teen doesn’t know how to talk with their parent, they feel they are at a disadvantage, they may not know how to process their emotions, so they bottle it up inside. they are more comfortable speaking with their peers who they believe understands them, than an adult who they think isn't on their level.
“The young always have the same problem - how to rebel and conform at the same time. They have now solved this by defying their parents and copying one another.”
The frustrating thing is just as you are feeling bewildered by the whole situation, your teen may be feeling the same. And the more you make an issue out of it the more you are pushing your teen away.
The key to opening the door of communication between yourself and your teen is to encourage trust by being honest about your feelings.
"You have to be authentic, you have to be true, and you have to believe in your heart"
Personal Experience of a Teenager Life
In my friend's daughter case, her personal experience as a teenager was that she felt she wasn't being listened to at school.
As a child, her first language was Portuguese and at school and that was a struggle to communicate with people. I was then asked to attend speech and language therapy to improve with my speech and Language skills.
No one listened without being judgemental, this made it hard for her to build trust with her teachers.
However difficult life may seem, there is always something you can do and succeed at. It matters that you don't just give up."
Building Healthy Relationships
There comes a time where when we want teenagers to be open with their parents, but the parent hasn't laid the foundations first by being open with their children, resulting in them closing down and lash out and will keep their issues to themselves.
Allow your teen to see that their action is causing you pain and anxiety. Take a step back and try and put yourself in your teen shoes, try and empathy towards their feeling.
"I want to be the best version of myself for anyone who is going to someday walk into my life and need someone to love them beyond reason.”
Spending time with your Teen may not be cool for them, it it is the perfect way to re-establish an healthy relationship. By showing an interest in what they are doing and what they like to do. Doing things together that you both enjoy. Just live for the moment without it being a question-and-answer session.
"Good communication is any relationship is like water and sunshine to a healthy lawn."
Author : Nicole Bennett Blake
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